By G.D. Maxwell
Jokes and homeownership owe their popularity and longevity, in part, to the amazing human ability to forget.
In the case of jokes, it may be their trivial quality that dooms them to being flushed long before they take root in the deeper memory cells of our brains. Jokes are like sickly, weak sperm cells; they just cant fight the sheer volume of faster, stronger, more important information where I put my car keys, for example for shelf space in long term memory. That we actually remember any of them is in itself a miracle. It explains why we only remember weve heard a joke just before the joketeller gets to the punchline. I do not know what perverse twist of human nature is responsible for what comes next, blurting out the punchline, but if human nature wasnt as twisted as it was, how would you explain Gordon Campbell and the fact we elected him with such an overwhelming majority?
Homeownership is different. Its roots of forgetfulness lie deeper in the brains primitive cortex, near the part responsible for occasionally dredging up painful memories like the refrain from Tie a Yellow Ribbon Round the Old Oak Tree or the first time you ever attempted a French kiss. Homeownership a socially driven phenomenon to begin with relies on a very large node of the brain whose sole function is to deeply and successfully repress any memory of the worst things youve ever experienced.
Its the part of the brain that lets skiers remember the perfectly carved turns they were making but not the fall that came next, the one resulting in several weeks of traction followed by half a year of physio. It explains why golfers talk at length about the hundred and fifty yard five iron they left 18 inches from the pin but dont mention the other 118 strokes it took them to get around, including the three putts immediately following their storied stroke.
Of all the truly astounding features of the human brain, it is quite possibly this selective forgetfulness that allows humanity to move forward. Left to its own devices, the brain will forget all the bad stuff. Up to a point. There are clearly some experiences too horrific, too traumatic to be overcome by this coping mechanism. The Holocaust is probably a good example. Or perhaps the searing memory of your older sisters friend pulling your swimsuit down around your ankles at the beach. Wow! Wonder where that came from.
When this part of the brain goes haywire medical jargon you remember all the bad stuff all the time. Psychiatrists like to call this condition The Gravytrain. Its what puts you on the couch a couple of times a week for years and years and what puts their kids through college. A more benign variant of this malady is, as it turns out, actually a prerequisite for motherhood. The key difference between it and The Gravytrain is you only remember the bad stuff your kids did so you can remind them of it when they get too cocky.
Anyway, it is because of this nifty human trick that I once again find myself a homeowner. The fact my Perfect Partner is actually the homeowner and I am merely the homefreeloader is beside the point. Her concerns are my concerns, so to speak.
The last home I owned was in Toronto. I moved in on July 5 th , 1983. I began renovating it on July 6 th , 1983. I remember it vividly because I started the renovation by stripping a particularly garish black and gold-veined, foil-backed wallpaper off the livingroom walls. The former owners were Polish immigrants and did not operate a house of ill-repute, this was just a sample of their decorating tastes.
The wallpaper, it turned out, was unstrippable. I tried steam I should have know better, it being about 98°F and 100 per cent humidity outside and only slightly hotter inside I tried caustic chemical strippers, I tried a power sander, I employed chisels and finally, after Id gotten out of hospital, fully recovered from heat prostration, chemical sensitivity, severe abrasions and several chisel punctures, I covered it with new drywall.
I sold that home on September 29 th , 1992. The renovations ended at 4 a.m. on September 29 th , 1992. I swore, Never Again. It was my own personal Holocaust.
But this time its different, I told myself. This time its only a cottage. A nice cottage by a nice lake in the Cariboo. A nice cottage with a nice acre of land with a nice downhill slope and a great expanse of lawn... soon to be reclaimed by wilderness if my first traumatic brush with mowing it is any indication.
All during last winter, thinking about having a cottage to retreat to this summer by a lake brimming with fish, this is how I visualized my summer.
Admittedly, Ive only been up here a couple of weeks now, but early trends suggest that vision of cottage life truly was a fantasy. Now that its stopped raining and the sun is shining like theres no tomorrow and the fish are ajumpin and the 1,835,927 mayflies that were breeding on my deck are gone, this is how realitys stacking up.
But hope springs eternal. The Forgetful Cortex is working overtime and every day I wake up thinking, "Just a few more days and the garden will be in, the encroaching wilderness will be turned back, the flower beds will be finished and Ill be ready to sit back and put the fear of God into the Kokanee and Rainbows living in Sulfuric Lake."
And then, it starts. A small voice coming from deep, deep within the recesses of the Stupid Lobe. Shriller than a conscience, more persistent than an admonition. "Reno the kitchen," it says over and over. Late in the evening, early in the morning, it screams loudest during the quiet times, going mute only when overwhelmed by spirits. Alcoholic spirits.
And thus begins the Kottage Khronicles.